How does that saying go...? "as parents we give our children two things... one is roots, the other is wings..."
The other morning after Emily and I had dropped off Julianna and were on the way to Emily's school, we started spotting and counting bald eagles. It was easy to see them here and there in the trees... not a cloud in the sky. I headed a little farther out into the country to a friends house and saw a few more, still counting. Picking up Emily after school brought one more into view, and she told me she'd seen three at lunch time. We headed back towards Julianna's school to watch her basketball game, still counting, and by the time we got there, our total for the day was at 25.
Why so many eagles? Maybe because it's been so Spring-like for so long, the birds are a little confused as to the season. Maybe we didn't actually see 25... very likely it could have been the same ones busy in their nests, staying close to home, preparing for their young ones, giving them roots. Either way, I was astounded to see so many.
Parenting has been a little rough for us lately. I've come to the realization that some of the characteristics I'm seeing growing in one of my girls just might stick around for the next few years, and it's worrying me because they're not what I hope for her. Last night I explained to her that when I babysit her one year old cousin, I've learned to stay one step ahead of him so when he heads for trouble, I can head him off. If I don't, I know he could get hurt or his reaction will be tears when I tell him 'no'. Telling my daughter that I don't always know how to ward off her negative reactions was difficult. But it felt right to be totally honest with her, because so often lately, her reactions are difficult for me to deal with. I've never parented before and each day is one of a kind.
Robyn and I are knee deep in roots right now and were praying that the things we do in raising our girls will really take hold so that when the time comes, our girls can really take flight.
Thanks for listening. I'm not seeking advice, but I did really need to share.